Have you ever had one of those days? You know, when you need a break from being a mom. That was me last week, I was so tired of my boys arguing over toys, crayons, Beanie Boos and Legos. I sent out a Snap that said, I'm done being a mom for today - somebody send backup! I know I'm not the only one who has needed a mom break. I used to feel guilty about it, like I should be with my kids every second of every day if I wanted to be a "good mom". I realized being a good mom means also taking care of myself. Every day when my husband Nik gets home from work I have me time. To take a shower, have a cup of tea, catch up on Real Housewives or just sit and enjoy the quiet. I love and appreciate that he knows I need this.
Like many of you, I see on Facebook or Instagram pictures of families that seem to have it all together. House is always spotless, kids are perfectly dressed and looking sweet as can be and every time I see it I think, wow that must be exhausting. I know it's hard to not compare when you see it but believe me the grass isn't always greener on the other side. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves because we feel like we need to compete, honestly who has time for that? I'd much rather be happy than pretend to be perfect.
So, I will embrace the crazy, hectic chaos that is motherhood knowing I'm not the only one who gets overwhelmed. I will not let myself feel guilty for needed alone time, I deserve it. I will not let anyone else's opinion of me as a mother change who I am. I will not pretend to be perfect. I will not judge other moms for how they handle the chaos in their homes. I will not let my boys miss out on being kids for fear of others seeing them as messy or disheveled.
When you see my pictures on social media, there will most likely be dishes in my sink, dirty laundry in a basket and toys ALL over my living room floor. You will also see two boys who love life and love to play together but who also have rough days. You will see my husband post pictures of the kids loving every second they get with him. What you see is real and I'm grateful for it every single day.